i remember the date, may 15, 1991, it was the date my wife miscarried and a young life was lost.
there was no funeral, few remarks of support.
i will never forget the remark of my mother, well it never was really a baby after all.
I too suffered an early miscarriage in 99.
It was the scariest thing that has ever happend to me.
I also think of the life that was,and wonder..
Luckily we were blessed with another pregnancy 2mths after losing that baby,so my attention was turned to that.
It does make you think about life and death more,and now I have a terrible fear of something happening to my two kids.
Silentlambs thankyou for sharing that beautiful poem,
It put tears in my eyes also..
Withlove
jez
this forum is very quiet.. i guess all us with kids are kept too busy to post!.
we have two boys - liam (3) and dylan (1).
how about everyone else ?
For Wendy again ,Im not sure the Email worked..
So if you dont get it I will try again later...sorry
this forum is very quiet.. i guess all us with kids are kept too busy to post!.
we have two boys - liam (3) and dylan (1).
how about everyone else ?
Thanx for replying WENDY ,
Ive sent you an Email!
Also loving hearing about all the kids..
JEZ
does anyone have experience with alcohol abusing family members?.
what can you do if they dont want to change?what do you do if they have chld(ren) being neglected and the aothorities wont help.. also what if you suspect other mental problems causing anger out bursts-threatend suicide etc.. sorry this is such a quick note as ive been up all night,but i would.
truly appreciate any advice or experience as this could be life-death as she drink drives with 3yr old .. thankyou friends
Dear Outnfree, Xroads and RedHW..
Thanks very much for replying again.
Mum has realised that we wont turn a blind eye to her drink driving with child so she is usualy very secretive about it,and she lives about 25 mins away from me.
But she does tell me that she stays up all night and goes for a drive at small hours to check on estranged husband,who often isnt home.
When I ask where was child she says 'with me',so she wakes the poor girl up at 2am.I wont bother to ask if she had been drinking at the time as at that point she would lie im sure.
She has been caught drunk driving and had her car confiscated for the night,the child was with her at the time.She gave the police a sob story and she just got a fine.
So the problem is I dont see her drunk anymore,I dont know when she will drink drive.I usually figure that out afterwards.She has driven drunk in the past couple of months with her daughter but luckily last time she drunk drove family had the child.
If we take her to court for custody it will cost a lot of money and she is such a good act she will probably win.
My aunty said to me"How many chances would Jesus give her?"... meaning that we should just keep giving her chances.This has been going for a long time and the authorities make excuses for her,very frustrating.
At the moment I think all we can do is hope to hell she is taking her anti alcohol pills so she cant drink.If anything happens to that little girl I will be on the news with this story slamming them for negligence!
Thanks for the advice guys if I do get a chance I will set her up,but I am not positive I will get that chance.
JEZ
and yes i feel it more every year, but it does not keep me from doing it..my doc recently told me the problem with middle aged people is that when it starts to hurt they stop, and that is just the thing we need to do, is force ourselves to try to get past the pain of arthritis, if we do this then in the long run we are better for it..i use alternative therapy such as vinegar and honey for the aches and pains, and it really works, it changes the ph structure of our joints and this is what is beneficial.
You go grandma!
does anyone have experience with alcohol abusing family members?.
what can you do if they dont want to change?what do you do if they have chld(ren) being neglected and the aothorities wont help.. also what if you suspect other mental problems causing anger out bursts-threatend suicide etc.. sorry this is such a quick note as ive been up all night,but i would.
truly appreciate any advice or experience as this could be life-death as she drink drives with 3yr old .. thankyou friends
My sis and I wrote a letter and sent it to her doc,psych emergency and the police in her area .THe letter stated that we were concerned that she wasnt getting the help she needed and that we would no longer support her by babysitting,lending money etc.
The doctor wasnt very happy as we made him responsible for her care and that we had done everything in our power to help her.Psych emergency told us we need to support our mother in this time-man has she fooled them.
Well they arent the ones being phoned at all hours with their drunk mother saying.."suicide call..5 minutes and Im dead!"
The first 7 or so times this happened we were worried but now just angry .
Also my mother has thrown a childs bike at my head while I was4 mths pregnant and on the same night car keys.All this coz I was dumb enough to visit her in a drunken rage to make sure she was ok.Well I will make sure that doest happen again!
She had some time out recently, and has pills to stop her drinking as she could endanger her daughter.She is back home but not talking to us kids because we caused trouble for her by writing those letters.
Also those letters were written in confidence to psych but they phoned her straight away to read the letter to her!Because she had been so honest to them so they would be honest with her..no privacy act for us!
Any way I am alot happier not seeing her at the moment but it hurts to not have a normal mum.
Well thats the gist of it thanks for listening!
this forum is very quiet.. i guess all us with kids are kept too busy to post!.
we have two boys - liam (3) and dylan (1).
how about everyone else ?
Dear Mommy was your daughter premature then?
You mustve been around age 20 when you had her,Shame that your Dad hasnt been around for a while then.Was your Mum a good support?
I ask this because both my parents have new children so i missed out on seeing them as doting grand parents.
And your children are very close in age too,those mustve been busy times!
Also one more nosey question...when did you study nursing ? before or after children?
I hope you dont mind me asking .. I think you are fantastic!!!
i'm getting married in a few weeks to the man that was disfellowshipped with me for 'committing adultery in our hearts".
we have been together for 5 years and have a wonderful and warm relationship, no fear or guilt.
the only blimp on the horizon is his family, some of whom are maniacs when it comes to the letter of the law.
UNI GIRL
All my love and best wishes on your day!
May it be full of wonderful memories!
LOVE jez
you guys thanxs for writing back when i wrote the first one i wasnt sure that people would write back .... there are so many posts in here but i wanted to just say thanxs!!:):).
luv.
jules.
Hello Shorty,
I wanted to be nosey if you dont mind and ask how old you are?
My mother was disfellowshiped when i was about 16 i am now 24 .
How are you coping with meetings without your mum?It probably helps if you have lots of friends in the congregation,or a good group of people who care about you.
Otherwise you must be very brave/determined!
Nice to meet you anyway**
JEZ
its amazing the extent these circulate in the wt world.
i am not so sure, but it develops a powerful folklore amongst jws....often with a moral at the end!
typically these circulate as experiences given in talks and are then adopted by the masses as truth.. for example, anyone hear the ul about the married couple where the wife had to have a routine blood check.
Dear Mulan
You are right-I for one have heard that story or similar before.
thanks jez
